Living with brash angry people?

Most of the people in my circle of life are angry, brash, sort of insensitive people, including my mom, brother, sister and most of people I've know throughout my life. Part of this is cultural as we are a scandinavian family in rural ND. Most scandinavians are quite brash and abrasive and are NOT very close emotionaly. Problem is I"m a quiet sensitive warm sort of guy it just seems like the people in my life don't recognize me or understand me. I know there are plenty of warmer more intimate people out there.. how come I don't come into contact with them and is there anything wrong with being a really sensitive quiet nurturing type guy? (i'm gay btw)